Agony Aunt

Question:
Question: I have been with this boy for a long time now. It is the second time we are going out. The first time was rather bad, I was lied to a lot and he dumped me while he was lying in a hospital bed. He practically begged me to come back to him but now I don't know why because he is acting like I am invisible if someone else is there. He treats me so special when it is just me and him, but he hasn't wanted to meet me since last Friday. What do I do? I want to talk it out with him, but please help me with what to say.

Agony Aunt Says:
Your right you do need to talk to him. It's best to do it face to face too so ask when would be a good time & arrange to meet somewhere neutral (like a bar, restaurant not either of your houses). I would suggest you make a list of all the things you want to cover so that you don't forget when you get there or get home & realise you have left something out. All you can do is be honest & just tell him exactly what you've told me. You're not being unreasonable; you have a right to know. The way he is treating you is not on, everyone deserves to be treated with respect & if he can't do that then he doesn't deserve to be with you. Good Luck!

Question:
I have had sex with a 60 year old man my friends all say it's wrong do you agree?

Agony Aunt Says:
I really hope this is a joke. But if it's not then yes I would have to say that I disagree with it happening & hope you don't intend to do it again. This is a huge age gap & makes me question why a 16 year old would want to have sex with a 60 year old? What is your family situation, do you have male role figures around or are you seeking some sort of father/grandfather type of figure? I would urge you to contact childine on 0800 11 11 as I think you need to speak to a counsellor as there is obviously some sort of underlying issue here & I am worried that you think it can be helped by having sex with a man who is nearly 4x your age. Please keep me posted on how you get on.

Question:
I'm stuck in a really complicated situation. I really like this girl, and I'm pretty sure she'd say yes if I asked her out. But there are two problems 1. She's my friends ex 2. Another friend has already told me they really like her! If I went out with her I'd lose those friends and they may well get REALLY angry with me. But I really like her... What do you think I should do? Thanks in advance.

Agony Aunt Says:
There's a famous saying that 'girls may come & go but friends are there for life' I can't tell you what to do as that is down to you. But to help you make a decision, think about how you would feel if the boot was on the other foot & one of your friends wanted to go out with one of your ex girlfriends? If you would be cool with it, then go ahead but let your friends know first & be prepared to lose them. Is this girl worth falling out with your friends over? If however you would not be happy with your friends doing this to you then there's your answer. Good Luck!

Question:
My boyfriend says he loves me, but it's hard for me to believe him. He goes out every night without me knowing and hardly calls or see's me. What shall I do about this??? I'm so confused.

Agony Aunt Says:
This is not the way you behave to someone you love. Talk is cheap & actions speak volumes. Have you spoken to him about this as he might not know that this is how you feel? Have you tried going out together? As well as this being an opportunity to see more of him this will also stop you wondering wheat he is getting up to. Trust is something you need to have for a relationship to work & there doesn't seem to be much here.

To be perfectly honest, your boyfriend has got it pretty sweet & I don't see why he would change, as he has got everything the way he wants it at the moment & knows you will just accept it. You deserve to be treated with respect so if it was down to me I would stop wasting my time & energy on him & get out & have fun with my friends.